This is where I discovered the truth. Women at the Well is a ladies forum on ezboard. I'm not active there anymore simply because I enjoy blogging more and it takes most of my free time. But this is where I was first introduced to anti-feminism and the role of biblical wife. When I first started sifting through all the information I thought these women were insane. I was brought up my a self proclaimed feminist. Now... I have no doubt in my heart that my mother is a born again christian, yet she is wrong in these areas. At the time I had never thought that was possible-that my mother could be wrong. I remember the day that I decided to try it out. I knew that the controlling selfishness I had been displaying in marriage wasn't working. I knew that if I didn't try something different that it would be over. That day I was given this advise from a woman on the board: "Greet him at the door when he gets home with a smile. Tell him you love him, and ask him what you can do to make his evening relaxing. Tell him you want to help him." I did just that. Not only that but for the first time in a very long time I made a real dinner and cleaned up after myself. I listened to him tell about his day and when he made a comment that I didn't like I kept my mouth shut. I let him work outside all afternoon without nagging him to spend all his free time with me. Guess what- not once that whole evening did we have any arguements or breakdowns (which had previously been a daily occurance in our home). Thats when I knew that this "respecting your husband and being a help meet" was the real thing. At the time I was desperate to try anything. I thought, "If takes me unlearning everything I thought was right...then I'm up for it". Even then I still loved my husband. But now I cherish him. It feels good.
Truth and Love
2 years ago