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Tuesday, May 15, 2007

Happy Mother's Day

To be honest Mother's Day isn't easy for me. For an infertile woman, her first mother's day is a nightmare. While it does get easier with time, it never goes away. The thing with infertility is theres never closure. At least not until your no longer infertile. For some woman, they never concieve or carry to term.
This year my husband made a card. He drew his own hand, and then put a paw print in it from each of our dogs. He knows that its hard for me, and it was very sweet.



My heart feels your sadness. I wish I could make it better. We had 4 sons of which we are very proud. We were in our 40 when we met a lady who didn't want her little girl and she wanted us to take her. I loved her from the moment I met her. I couldn't imagine a mother not wanting her child. We adopted that little girl who was 3 when we got her and and is now 22. I feel like she did come from my body. She is as much my own as the 4 sons that I gave birth to. There are so many children out there that need someone to love them. I wish I could take them all but I am 64 now and too old those days are past for me. Let an old lady tell you don't waste all that love you and your husband have give it to someone. You don't have to adopt like we did, just look around they are there just waiting. You are probably already doing this. But if not I would like to encourge you to see that there are also those who need Mothers. Even some that do give birth are not really Mothers. I hope this has helped in some way and not caused your burden to be heavier. It surely was not meant to do that. I love my daughter with all my heart. My love goes out to you. connie from Texas

Jthemilker said...

Just know that you are not alone. It was a rough weekend for me too. If you ever need to vent, email me at

Daughter of the King said...

I browsed your blog today..and sweet woman...your situation and hearts desire is on my prayer list...
I am new to the world of blogging:
You are blessed to have a husband that does understand......

Bethanie said...

Connie- I'll get to your comment in a post tomarrow. I'm so busy here at work today.
jthemilker- I really appreciate the offer, but I try not to "vent" about it anymore.
Deby- welcome! Thanks for the prayer!

Anna S said...

I can imagine it must be difficult... like Valentine's Day is difficult for singles. But God is watching, and we are His children. In Him we trust.

Brenda@CoffeeTeaBooks said...

One never knows what God will do.

After my daughter was born (which was after my son passed away after living about 30 min...he was a preemie), I was told I'd probably not be able to have more children.

Twelve years son!

God's timing. :)

I do pray for you that if God chooses another route for parenthood, it will be so obvious you will know it is Him.

Mary said...

Your dh is a gem. You are both in my prayers, hoping that God will perform a miracle whether resulting in pregnancy or the opening of another door to fulfill His perfect plan in your lives. I know it's hard.


rohanknitter said...

I'm sorry it was a hard day...I always think on Mother's Day how hard it must be for women who want to be mothers and aren't, or for women who have had to experience the death of a child. The Mother's Day stuff is so "everywhere," if you know what I mean. I'm glad you have an empathetic husband, that must mean a lot. : )

Happymama said...

Yes, that was very sweet of your hubby.


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